Gay romance fiction

Match Strike

...on the true story that inspired Hot Head and turned me into a romance writer.

by Damon Suede

(originally posted in 2011 as a "Behind the Story" at Jadette Paige's site)

"No one deserves to be punished for loving with an open heart." (Hot Head - D. Suede)

Today I've come to play in the inspirational sandbox with a story about my first book. Fans have asked about my inspiration and I wanted to share the full story behind the story.

Hot Head, a gay romance by Damon SuedeI wrote Hot Head on a dare from a dear friend who I was helping with structure questions on her own novel. I’ve been writing for 20+ years in film and theatre, but fiction has never been my favorite form; she told me if I didn’t write a gay romance I was “a lazy idiot.” I laughed and agreed, but then I needed an idea. I didn’t want to write something porn-y, which is the criticism often leveled at male writers in the genre. I wanted angst, and heightened, compressed emotion. And then I remembered an intense confession I’d heard once upon a while ago…

See…starting in the late 90s, my best galpal in the whole universe went through this compulsive, sex-n-drama addiction in which she became obsessed with and only dated a string of gorgeous, tormented firefighters. For seven years or so, she found hysteria very romantic and for that stretch of time she only had eyes for unfaithful troublemakers with eight-packs and cocks like wine bottles. Most of these relationships lasted under a year, operatic tragicomedies with dildos and screaming. Most ended with three a.m. arguments in which she hurled crockery and birthday-gifts out the window at the “cheating lying asshole” she’d just dumped while he begged for forgiveness with crocodile tears in the street below her window. Lots of agita, lots of broken promises, incendiary sex, but (safe to say) completely unhealthy.

For those seven years, I logged untold hours on porches and barstools listening to crazy heroics, sleazy anecdotes, and odd confessions because these hot mooks wanted to impress my friend with how hip and “cool” they were with her gay best friend. They all loved telling stories, and they had stories that defied belief. The FDNY is insane and its members take pride in that. Full stop.

One night in about 2002, she and I were writing in a house upstate. She was editing a novel, I had to finish a screenplay because a play of mine had won an award and sold to film folk. We go away every summer for intense marathon writing, and on the weekends our men would visit. That weekend, my boyfriend was working a case somewhere. Her boyfriend, let’s call him G, had arrived after dinner a little drunk and horny.

While I did the dishes they had loud, hilarious sex upstairs. My friend fell asleep after, and then G clumped downstairs in a pair of sweats because he hadn’t eaten. He fixed a plate and I poured us a couple whiskeys and we went out to the porch so he could smoke. Now, this guy was a career fireman: 30ish, Irish mutt, probably wore a size 52 suit, hands like roast beefs, big open face and doe-eyes on top of this wall of muscle. I remember we were telling gross dating stories, NC-17 stuff about sex we’d had and things that freaked us out. He mentioned to me that I didn’t “seem all that homo” and joked about his “crappy” gaydar but made sure I knew he had no problem with folks doing their thing. He mentioned “friendly” male bodybuilders at his gym who gave him pointers and a no-bullshit female podiatrist who he liked; he felt pretty sure all of the above were “homos” but dug how “cool and open” they were.

At this point I felt tired and thought it high time G go upstairs for hokey-pokey round two, so we could all get some sleep. Before I could say my goodnight, this sweet meathead kind of thumped me on the back; his face got serious and he didn’t say anything… but I could tell he wanted to.

Very quietly, looking at the dark yard, he confessed that he had once loved a man. “Like that,” he said, a guy as straight as he was. I had NO idea what to say but I nodded in support of the idea. (HOT! was the thought I had actually.) G explained that the man was his best friend and fellow firefighter, a legendary golden-boy around the FDNY… a courageous nutjob working at the worst houses, so gorgeous he was date bait for the other crew members, and a habitual cheater who got away with everything because the world loved him.

Both of them were “totally straight,” G said. Hell, they’d tagteamed “broads” together, puked on each other, bailed each other out of jail after bar fights… but at a certain point G had realized that he loved-loved his friend. Affection had grown into attraction, but he never confessed his feelings. Speaking would have jeopardized the friendship, the FDNY, their families, their lives. Even worse: one horny drunken night, G and his then-wife had asked his buddy to join them in an ill-advised threeway that wrecked the friendship for a long time.

Up close and personal, G had gotten tense and weird and wouldn’t explain why. His wife and his friend both got freaked out by how intense and emotional he was during the threeway. His friend punched him. G broke up with his wife that week and filed for divorce; the friends fought and then spent a horrible August not hanging out at all… even though they were supposed to go on vacation together down the Jersey Shore. G slowly went out of his mind trying to decide what to do, who to trust, what to say about how he felt.

And then his best friend was killed at the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001.

They had both worked the scene but only G made it out alive. He had been outside when the first tower went. He had no idea what had happened to his buddy, couldn’t find him in the chaos, didn’t even know how to try because they hadn’t spoken in over a month. Command had been wiped out in the collapse and thousands were lost while the world burned down around them. That day, without ever knowing the truth, his best friend simply vanished into thin air.

Even now, retelling this, I can see the stricken look on his big baby face … the pain and grief and anger and regret churning inside of him while he sat smoking a cigarette with a shaking hand on a porch at night surrounded by dark trees. I will never forget his stare, creased with a terrible, patient longing he’d carry until he died himself.

And I knew. It was so clear to me that he wished he had died on 9/11. That’s what he was saying, what he had confessed to me. He vibrated with the desire to dig and dig and dig until he’d dug his rut into a grave. I don’t know how else to explain it. At that moment, I knew he was pretending to be alive and taking stupid risks on purpose, I knew how he would die, and (maybe) only I knew why.

In a way, he buried his secret in me. I think G needed so badly to confess the truth to someone sympathetic it had just slipped out. The thing is, he couldn’t tell anyone his secret except some gay writer he barely knew, because his life had no room for that unspoken love, or those unlikely lovers. No one could ever know. When he and my friend did split up she admitted that she felt like she’d using him like a big dildo, a hung fireman with sad eyes and a dead heart, and that they’d openly joked about when she’d get tired of him being a visitor in his own life.

So when another author dared me and I needed a germ of an idea for a homoerotic love story that could support the angst, sexiness, and drama I crave in my books, G’s face on the porch came back to me like a handsome ghost. I wished more than anything that I could answer a question he’d never asked...and wanted to give a happy ending to two men who could never have found it outside the pages of a romance novel.

Like a match on bricks, Hot Head sprang out of that night I sat listening on the porch with no way to help a man who’d been punished for loving… if I succeeded at all, it’s because of the pain and truth he shared. Writing the book was a chance to rewrite their lives the way they might have been, unspoken love given time to grow and the happily ever after those men deserved.

A professional development article for writers by M/M author Damon Suede

Copyright 2011. Damon Suede. All Rights Reserved

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